At least two approaches to playing music
Some players set out to take every musical opportunity, to really assert themselves in the music. This can be awe-inspiring, effective, tiring, or oppressive.
Other musicians set out to make those they are playing with sound better. This approach can sound supportive, uplifting, boring, or elementary.
Your listening tastes define these lines, but there is an important underlying question to repeatedly check in with - who sounds most amazing, you or your group?